6 Things You Don’t See That Prove You Should Never Compare Yourself to Anyone Else, Ever.

Anthony ‘AJ’ Joiner
2 min readApr 29, 2021

Stop comparing yourself to what you see shared online.

Social media isn’t built for the full story.

What you see online is 100% edited.

It’s designed for quick communication.

Sound bites.

Limited character counts.

Here are 6 things we never see that prove comparing your reality to someone else’s veneer is a complete and utter waste of your time, energy, and effort.

  1. We see the perfect Instagram picture with filters applied but forget about the other forty-one disregarded shots with awkward faces and closed eyes that have to be deleted from the camera roll.
  2. We see the shiny new truck, not the line of credit, the $576/month dollar lease note, and $279/month full cover insurance. We don’t know the headaches they have from dealing with the nerve-racking clients they have to tolerate to support their personal brand.
  3. We see the picture-perfect enviable couple on social media, but in reality, they coexist, barely speak, haven’t kissed in months, sleep in different bedrooms, and are only together for the kids.
  4. We see the promotion for the best-selling books, not the sixteen months it took to write it, 583 emails back and forth to the editors, and 17 book cover edits and frustratingly bitter arguments with the publisher over multiple missed deadlines.
  5. We share the inspirational meme that goes viral of a woman winning the race after coming back from behind, but are oblivious to the extensive, grueling, and quite frankly, lonely hours she spent doing wind sprints every day at 4 am or her insecurity over her boyfriend who dumped her because she doesn’t have time for to go out for drinks.
  6. We see the final, launched product — not the multiple, wrong iterations, the debt to investors or to the bank, lawsuit from the partner that feels they got screwed or discouraging words when his family told him to just get a regular job.

Almost everything you see online is polished, filtered, and perfected so that people will see it, like it, and share it.

You see the dazzling, styled results.

You see the exceptions to the rule.

Social media isn’t built for the full story.

Stop comparing yourself to what you see shared online.

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